My lovely Monkey (increasingly aptly nicknamed as she swings through play features that many children older than her 6.5 years struggle with!) is now home educating and today had what I thought was an important discovery.
Her younger brother (now 3!) had his first activity session – Rugbytots – and she was sitting watching. For all his three years he has gone to her swimming, dance and gym lessons and played (mostly happily) on the sidelines. At times he has found little buddies to play with, but often it is just him and his trains.
Today, the tables were turned and Monkey found it really hard to sit and watch Chimp as he ran around with a rugby ball. She had a book to read and paper to draw on, but this stayed in the bag as she sat and desperately tried not to jump up and join in!
She was, I think, quite glad when I spilled some water and so had to find towels to mop it up. She was straight in there, helping her brother to do the activity. As he ran on with friends, her lip wobbled and tears dropped as she tried to come to terms with the fact that this was his class and not hers.
We chatted, she listened, she tried to cheer up and carried on helping and cheering her brother as he kicked the rugby ball over the goal posts. But now she wants to do rugby too!!
Luckily the last activity involved a parachute game and she could join in too.
I think it is a hard lesson to learn to sit and watch others having fun from the sidelines. Not a nice position to be in, but one that will happen throughout life. Perhaps next time, it will be easier for her.